The other day I had a beautiful woman stop me and tell me she started following me on Instagram and that my story is powerful. She went on to tell me how wonderful I am for being a foster mother and that the world needs more people like me.
While I appreciate her very kind and thoughtful words, it got me thinking. I am not special and I am not a hero. I’m simply a broken and flawed woman who reluctantly agreed to follow God’s plan for me to become a foster mom.
The truth is, I never would have chosen this path for myself. I desperately wanted to have biological children. My husband and I tried for years with no success. I prayed every single day for God to make me a mother. He started showing me very clear signs that my husband and I were being called to foster children. After two years of trying my best to ignore those signs I threw my hands up and said okay God, let’s do this.
God has a plan for all of us, we just have to follow it. I simply couldn’t imagine a life without bubba. I think it would be impossible for me to love him more even if I gave birth to him. Because of that love I’m willing to fight for him. To advocate for his best interests and stand up for what’s right.
I often hear, “I could never foster, I’d get too attached.” Y’all, I’m a human being just like you. I’m ATTACHED! It would be DEVASTATING for me to loose the little boy who’s been mine for over a year. I know it’s a real possibility. What keeps me going is knowing that I’m giving bubba the best life possible in the mean time. I’ve created a loving place for him to call home. It is stable and will always be open to him even if we’re separated.
I cry, scream and fight EVERY SINGLE DAY! I’m frustrated by the system on the daily. But I know that this season is for a reason. I know God is in full control of the future and I KNOW in my heart that it’s good.
I’m not special, I’m not a hero. I’m blindly flowing God’s plan and trusting him to provide. You don’t have to wear a cape to foster, you just have to be a human with love and compassion for others. If I can do it, you can to.
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But you ARE special!!!!! You’re an inspiration to the young & the old.
You’re an amazing woman and I’m so happy I started following you years ago. I’ve watched you grow in ways I couldn’t have imagined years ago. Keep doing what you’re doing. Let God continue to guide you! 🙂😘